This has been an amazing week collaborating with my sisterfriend Care of fashionwithcare.com If you haven’t already done so, please press the link, read, and subscribe to her website. Outside of our collaboration she does some pretty amazing blogs, collaborations, themes for the week, and e-books!

We both hope that you have enjoyed our fun week together. We are officially wrapping up our week with a few goals and tips to experiencing fulfillment in the fall with your friends!

I am nearing a milestone birthday in about 6 weeks! I am turning the big 3-0! I am anxious about year 30. I’ve been so anxious about 30 that I hadn’t thought much about celebrating it. But thanks to God sent friends like Care, I will be celebrating for sure! Y’all, she cornered me in the airport and said that she don’t care how I feel, and I will be celebrating 30 and to get ready to get on this flight lol My friends are DOPE! As overwhelmed with the thought of year 30 coming up, I truly pray that is my year. I’m actually going to claim it. Year 30 is MY year!

Here are couple of my goals for the fall that I would like to complete by the end of this year: 

1. I started a really big weight loss journey at the end of 2015/beginning of 2016. My largest weight was 248. I have lost somewhere between 60-70lbs in the matter of 5 months. While that is a SIGNIFICANT amount of weight loss, I have truly struggled for a year to actually reach my goal. I am about 20 or so pounds away from my weight loss goal and I want to shed the last pounds off an actually get a flat tummy. I plan on doing 2 a day workouts and eating very clean for the remainder of the year. Watch me work! I will post the results on my blog!

2. Quite a few people have requested it so I plan on posting natural hair tutorials! MAYBE on YouTube 😊 When you have dope hair, why not share it with the world?!

3. I want to see the world so I will be booking an international trip for 2018 by the end of this year. I have never been outside of the country…besides Canada. I want to see what the world has to offer through my own lenses!

Please make sure you check out Care’s goals too on fashionwithcare.com!

We have put together 10 tips for having a fulfilling fall with friends and fashion this season.

1. Be a friend if you want to have a friend

2. Purge your closet and share with friends

3. Take a trip together and dress up

4. On Wednesdays we wear Pink! – Have a little fun with your girls. Pick a day of the week to have a themed dress day (especially if you live in different places). Channel your inner sisterhood from far away

5. Pray together! Make this a priority. Don’t get too caught up in your own life that you leave your friends behind!

6. Embody all the characteristics of what you would desire from a great friend.

7. Create a group text with your friends to talk whenever you want. Great memories can be created even when you can’t get together all the time.

8. Get a hotel room and have a girls night with your friends.

9. Do something wild with your hair with a friend! Try a temporary hair color spray, dress cute and have a photo shoot together. Unicorns are rare and great friends are too, so be unicorns together, and go viral on the internet with #FriendGoals as your hashtag.

10. Be accountable to your crew. Affirm your friends on the regular and keep them lifted.
Thank you to all of our readers for this past week. I had a great time working with my sister friend. It is important to have amazing people in your tribe like Care. She pushes me when I need to be pushed because she sees so much in me and she refuses for it to just go to waste. She’s been an amazing sisterfriend to me and I hope that I am able to be half as great to her as she is to me.

Don’t forget to tell us your thoughts in the comments with your goals!

See y’all later 😊
Tanisha and Care

Confession: The most complicated part of getting ready for a regular or even a big event is deciding on the perfect hairstyle. As of late, I find that I am most satisfied when I put the least amount of effort into my hair. A couple of my friends recently raved about my hair. They laughed and are still laughing at the fact that I told them that I woke up with great hair! It took me all of five minutes to style my hair. I wet it, put a little bit of leave in on my hair, and brushed my edges up with some gel and put it in a loose ponytail. Lastly, I said a prayer and went to sleep and hoped for decent hair and it turned out GREAT!

Below is day one hair, but it gets bigger as the week goes. You’ll notice in the series of photos through out this blog. 

All I did was a simple pineapple. It’s a very basic but versatile style. From everyday casual to nightlife, a pineapple will take you a long way.

Below, I rocked my pineapple with my casual clothing. My typical everyday fall look. A sweater, a cute baby tee, distressed jeans, and combat boots.

Then I transformed my pineapple into a fineapple with my autumn night time look! Let’s start with m jacket. Leather jackets are an absolute must in the fall! Oh and there’s my cute baby tee again! It can go from everyday wear to a night on the town with my girls, especially when I pair it with a simple mustard body con skirt, some fashion tights, and with booties or knee boots depending on your mood. And did I mention a cute cross-body purse to complete the look?!

And my pineapple was perfect for a semi-formal fall look. I chose a simple A line skirt and an off the shoulder burgundy ruffled top. And again, I wore the same booties with it to finish the look.

The pineapple is probably one of the easiest and most versatile hairstyles because you can literally rock it with ANYTHING! Pineapples have been saving my life very often as of late.

See y’all on day 4 where Me and Care will wrap up the series!

Be sure to check out Care’s Fall Fashion piece as well! www.fashionwithcare.com

Have Fun!

Tanisha Lashelle 😊

The biggest focus of my blog is empowering women through my story. An important part of womanhood is having important women around you to build you up and support you. I have a network of women that I keep around me.
During this week, I have collaborated with someone who has been a vital part of my growth and journey to womanhood.

To all of you who do not know her, you will soon know her.

This is my sister Care Allen of http://www.fashionwithcare.com! We met exactly 10 years ago this month in Holden Hall on the campus of Michigan State University. We had both just joined the MSU Gospel Choir. One day after choir rehearsal, Care decided that she wanted to come visit. She stayed all night because that what you do in college. Stay up all night, have fun, and occasionally study from time to time lol But after that day I LITERALLY couldn’t get rid of her out of my life. I don’t know what it was but we just clicked with each other! 

We are so different but have the tendency to think alike on the same things. The defining moment of our sisterhood: We were playing taboo and the clues I gave were: “Pink, tall, bird!” Everyone in the room guesses flamingo but Care yells “ostrich!” and she got it right. Yes, I am very aware of the fact that I described a flamingo to perfection, but I knew she was my sister when she knew I wanted her to say ostrich because I was unable to describe it enough for them to guess. I knew we were soul sisters because she just understands me! lol I don’t know what it was, but we formed a bond that has been unexplainable and unbreakable.

Now let’s be clear, we have shared many disagreements but we have not allowed one of them to come in between us and they can’t compare in number or impact to all the good times. We have shared many tears together. I have seen some of the most challenging times in her life and she has witnessed me at my absolute worst. Our friendship has truly stood the test of time and I am so grateful for my friend.

That’s enough of us! What creates the defining moments in friendships for you? For me, the most defining moments in my friendships have been when everything in life came crashing down in my life. I saw who were really #TeamTanisha. They helped me pick up the pieces and rebuild me and helped me become the woman I am today. I have an entire tribe of women who screams #FriendGoals!

Here are a few ladies in a my tribe!

Leave your comments below! We want to hear about some of your most defining moments in sisterhood/friendship!